Findom glossary
You’ll find that findom has its own terms and acronyms. Here’s my ever-growing list of terms you might want to know.
You’ll find that findom has its own terms and acronyms. Here’s my ever-growing list of terms you might want to know.
2DFD - 2D findomme, usually where the domme is using images generated with AI. Read more in What is a 2DFD?
Aftercare - The time and attention given to a sub after a session has ended. Learn more in What is aftercare?
Ass (or any other) worship - Any form of worship, such as ass worship, breast worship, or foot worship, is a focus on that area of the body. So, foot worship could be a video of you rubbing lotion on your feet and giving yourself a foot massage, while talking and teasing the viewer—or, if you include another participant like your partner, it could be them licking and kissing your feet, and sucking your toes.
ASMR - Autonomous sensory meridian response. A kind of a tingly sensation along the scalp, back of the neck and spine, in response to certain sounds or sights. Any sort of vocal services on this list can be offered as ASMR with a little practice.
Blackmail - Threatening to release photos/videos/personal details if a sub doesn’t pay, although most dommes only do this as role play, rather than actual blackmail.
Cash meets - Meeting in real life with a sub so they can give you cash, or take you shopping, or both. Try What is a cash meet? for more info.
CBT - Cock and ball torture, generally through pain or constriction.
CEI - Cum eating instructions, which will involve delayed gratification, as well as when to, where to, and how to climax and consume.
Chastity - Telling a sub he is not allowed to release for a period of time, generally days, weeks, or a month. May be combined with caging, which involves forced chastity by locking the penis in a cage and sending the key to the domme to hold or wear.
D/s - Domme/sub, written in a way to indicate the dominance of the domme.
Debt contracts - A contract saying the sub owes their domme a certain amount, which is then paid in installments. Often combined with things like retweet games, where the amount owed is larger than a sub can reasonably pay all at once.
Degradation - Treating the sub badly. This could be treating them like an object, like a foot stool or an ashtray, or calling them names and generally treating them with no respect.
Dick ratings - The sub sends a photo of their penis, and the domme rates it. Some dommes charge different rates for ratings done via text, via video, or live.
Drains and rinses - A drain refers to emptying a sub’s bank account. Read more about Drains and rinses.
EG - Engagement group. A group of dommes or dommes and subs, that band together to help promote each other’s content, and boost engagement. Mostly on Twitter.
FLR - Female led relationship, where the woman takes the dominant role.
Feminization - Imposing traditionally female attributes on a male sub. May include telling the sub to wear women’s clothing and underwear, makeup, and styling their hair as a woman would. May also involve telling subs to perform domestic tasks, such as cooking and cleaning.
Food fetish - Food fetishes can take many forms. Some have a kink for watching their domme eat, while others might prefer to see her sitting on food, or stepping on it.
GFE - Girlfriend experience. Pretending to be a sub’s girlfriend, including speaking or texting them as a girlfriend would.
Giantess - The domme acts as though she is extremely large, like a giant, and the sub is very tiny. Some have a kink for being stepped on or eaten.
Humiliation - Saying things to the sub, and asking them to do things, that they find embarrassing. This can sometimes mean telling the sub to do something in public that they find humiliating.
Hypnosis - Putting the sub into a trance with voice and/or images.
IFBSW - I Follow Back Sex Workers. Often used in Twitter posts and bios, but seen elsewhere, as well. If you follow someone using this, they will follow you back.
Ignore sessions - Meeting a sub in a live session or chat, and literally ignoring them, no matter what they do. More about this in What is an ignore session?
JOI - Jerk off instructions. Usually either audio or video of a domme giving instructions to the listener on how to masturbate.
LF - LoyalFans, a fan support site that dommes use to get age verified in a way that allows anyone to see they’re verified, without requiring the viewer to create an account or log in.
MDNI - Minors, do not interact. Usually found in the bio of a findomme or sex worker, to indicate that minors should avoid their content.
NSFW - Not safe for work. Generally, any content that shows skin, or describes something you wouldn’t discuss at full volume in your workplace.
OF - OnlyFans, a fan support site that dommes use to get age verified in a way that allows anyone to see they’re verified, without requiring the viewer to create an account or log in.
Ownership - When a domme and sub have agreed to a long term arrangement, where the sub is owned by the domme.
Punishment - Punishment is something a domme assigns a sub to atone for something they’ve done to displease her. Unlike tasks, punishments are something the sub will probably not enjoy, and may be required to do before the domme allows further contact.
RT games - A mostly Twitter phenomenon, where a sub pays a deposit to their domme for a retweet game, with a time limit, and an agreed upon amount to be paid for each retweet, comment and like. You may see these happening with tweets that say $3/$3/$3, indicating that’s what the sub will pay for each RT, comment and like within the designated time period.
SFW - Safe for work. Generally, content, photos and videos that would be safe to open at the office.
SPH - Small penis humiliation. Ridiculing a sub for having a small penis, sometimes done via video.
Safe word - A prearranged word to use to end an activity. More about this in What is a safe word?
Silent send - When a sub sends money to a domme without contacting her, or even identifying themselves. Read more in What is a silent send?
Switch - Someone who alternates between dominant and submissive, or is dominant in some situations, and submissive in others.
TPE - Total power exchange. In findom, when a sub surrenders all power to their domme. Often, she takes over all the sub’s finances, and manages the subs expenses.
Tasks - Tasks are something dommes give to subs, and can be free or paid. They may be something the sub has to do to show devotion to a domme, like writing her name over and over, or to help the domme, like retweeting her posts. Tasks are not a punishment, and subs might ask for tasks from their domme because they’re enjoyable.
Tribute - Payment to a domme before contacting her. Usually, an initial tribute is paid by a sub as his introduction, to show respect to a domme he wants to contact.
Unblock fee - A fee required to remove a sub’s block by a domme on social media.
Vanilla findom - Giving money to girls who aren’t findommes, hoping to turn them into dommes. More in What is vanilla findom?
Wheel spins - Some dommes create wheels, using apps like Spin the Wheel, and charge subs to take a spin. Spins might require the sub to pay a certain amount, or do a certain task.