What you should tell a new sub
When getting to know a new sub, there are dome topics you should discuss with them, so you’re both on the same page when you’re playing together.
Your expectations - You should be clear about what things your sub should do to meet your expectations. Give them a list of basic things to do to show their continued interest in being your sub. Mine might be: address me respectfully; text me every morning to say good morning, and every evening to say good night; and send a weekly tribute that we’ve agreed upon.
Your limits and boundaries - These can be as simple or complex as you wish. Remember, limits are things that start with I, and boundaries start with You. My boundaries might be: you must never make me repeat myself; you must never address me as anything other than Mistress; you must never be late or keep me waiting; you must never ask for anything I have not offered; and you must always accept NO as a complete sentence. My hard limits: I do not participate in race play, age play, or incest scenarios.
Your hours of availability - This can be specific work hours, like 9-5 M-F, or something less rigid, like mornings and evenings. You set which times you’re available to speak with subs, and when you’re off the clock, living your life. Make time in your schedule for both. My availability: I’m up most days by 8AM, and online off and on until 8PM. I can be available later in the evening by appointment only. If you want to speak at a specific time, it’s best to schedule it in advance. I do take days off, and expect them to be respected once you’ve been made aware.
If there are other things you think a sub should know to begin a healthy relationship with you, tell them. Nobody is a mind reader. If you expect a tribute every day, or a message when you’re at lunch at your vanilla job, tell your sub that. If you absolutely will not do something, define that thing clearly. Be direct. Clear communication is key to keeping the D/s relationship happy and healthy.