Is it OK to take a break from findom?

I recently wrote about taking a six month break from findom, for both safety and peace of mind.

So, is it OK to take a break? And then come back?

Guarding your mental health

Doing any type of sex work can be taxing on your mental health. Taking a break to take care of yourself when you’re struggling or feeling overwhelmed is absolutely OK, no matter what you do for a living. Take the time you need to feel whole and healthy, or find ways to cut back if finances don’t allow you to step back completely. More time for yourself is always a good thing.

Suspending service

If you’re thinking of taking a break, communicate that to any active subs you have. They need to know that you’ll be stepping away, and if possible, for how long. Sometimes, it’s just best to cut them loose, and let them find a new domme to serve.

You’ll also want to make the rounds of the sites you use, and put them on vacation. I wish I had posted an image on social media sites, saying I’d be taking some time off, instead of leaving them looking abandoned. I did turn off all subscriptions on adult platforms, and turn off things like DMs wherever I could. I needed not to hear my phone buzzing, so I turned off notifications on some sites.

Coming back

Once I felt ready to come back, I once again made the rounds, turning things back on, and checking to see what changes had to be made. Wishtender went under while I was away, so I started testing new payment methods. I put together some new images, and started posting on socials. I found out all three Twitter engagement groups I belonged to had gone dormant, and am still working on reviving one, and finding replacements for the others.

I was off for six months. Lots of things changed in that time, but rather than getting overwhelmed again, I just took one thing at a time. I also spent time catching up on support groups, and reading the tea on socials. If things are continuing to change, I want to know how. If there are new scams happening, I want to know where, and what they are. I tend to keep my ear to the ground in the world of findom anyway, so this was just sort of one more thing I had to turn back on.

Starting over

In many ways, taking a break and coming back is like starting all over. I came back to zero subs, low engagement on socials, and new sites to learn about and explore. I always tell new dommes to just focus on one thing at a time, and not try to tackle the whole list of stuff at once, so that’s what I’m working on. I do have a long list of stuff to do, but I’m not doing it all today.

In conclusion

Is it OK to take a break and come back? For me, yes. It felt necessary to step away, and I felt ready, six months later, to step back in.

Is it a pain in the neck to start over? Also yes. But worth it.