Interview with Goddess Allie
Goddess Allie is a member of my favorite engagement group, and was one of the first to respond when I mentioned adding interviews to Findomme 101. Her header on Twitter says “I’m a bad influence, but we’re gonna have a lot of fun”, which is the perfect introduction to this versatile domme.
How long have you been a findomme?
In real life, a year. On Twitter/X, since July 2023.
What's your current initial tribute, if you have one?
$30 USD.
How would you describe your domme style or persona?
I consider myself to be a polydomme. I’m gentle, kinky and sadistic, with mommy/daddy tendencies. Depending on my mood and the dynamics with my sub, I can adapt my persona to fit us both for the session.
How did you find out about findom, and what made you decide to be a findomme?
Unfortunately, I am someone who stumbled across findom on TikTok. I knew about the BDSM world, but I didn’t know findom was an option. When I was in the research phase, it started to click that this was more my style. Being a findomme fits my personality to a tee.
What do you think is the best thing about being a findomme?
So far, the best thing about being a findomme is the power it gives to my soul. There is no room for outside noise. It’s just me and my sub doing what we enjoy. I have this amazing community that I have stumbled upon. I’ve met some of the most incredible and diverse people.
What's the absolute worst thing about being a findomme?
The worst thing about being a findomme is the lack of education of subs and dommes. Everyone has their own style, which is beautiful, but the lack of understanding of some of the key elements is scary.
Do friends and family know you're a domme, or do you keep it secret?
At first I kept being a domme a secret. I didn’t want anyone coming across my media and asking questions I wasn’t able to answer. I didn’t want my family judging me in a negative light. However, I recently told some of them what I have been doing and I got amazing support. They all said in a round about way that they were happy that I found something that fit my personality. It was the most uplifting experience I’ve had.
Best site for finding subs right now?
I’m still trying to figure that out. I’ve done decently on Twitter, but I’m still searching for the best.
What does your ideal D/s relationship look like?
My ideal D/s relationship is a trusting relationship, where my sub knows that I’m here for them, and the same in reverse. Where communication flows naturally. I’m a very understanding person, so I want my sub to know that communication is key to everything we do. The respect and honesty has to also be there with both parties. If one element is off then the whole relationship will be off.
What do you do to decompress?
There are a couple of dommes that I’ve developed a strong bond with. We have an understanding that some days, we just need to let off some steam, talk trash, and decompress. We never judge each other and allow each other to have their moment. They’ve been a tremendous help. I also take a break when I need a break. I am not a 24/7 domme, and sometimes you have to do something for yourself.
What's your advice to someone who is just starting out as a domme?
My advice would be to do your research. Don’t just get an idea and run with it, research it first. Trust your gut. If you get a bad feeling or something doesn’t add up, then you are probably right and should listen to your inner voice.
Thanks so much, Goddess Allie!
To find Goddess Allie online, check her link list.