10 things a findomme should never do
Let me start by saying this entire list is my own opinion, but before I published it, I asked a large group of dommes what one thing findommes should never do, and nine of the ten things on this list were repeated over and over by group members. Do with that what you will.
Never steal another domme’s sub. If you see a sub is owned by another domme, shut that sub down immediately if they contact you. If you’re not sure, check the sub’s profiles, bios, user name, and timelines. Usually, there’s some indication that they belong to a certain domme. If they do, walk away. Stealing another domme’s sub will get you a bad name.
Never copy another domme. Her posts, and her bio, are her original work. There’s a huge difference between learning from another domme and being inspired by her, and stealing from her. Learn the difference, and write your own stuff. It’s not worth the public roasting you will get if you get caught.
Never use the comment section of another domme's post to promote yourself. Do not jump into the comments of a popular domme asking people to follow you, or send to you. It’s trashy, and not in a good way. Plus, it’s a good way to get yourself blocked. The exception: when a domme posts a gain train, or some other community audience builder, and invites other dommes to post a link, photo, emoji, or whatever. Post what she allows, and no more.
Never chase subs. Don’t message a sub who hasn’t messaged you first. Don’t comment on their posts, demanding money. It’s tacky, submissive, desperate, and a dead giveaway you’re new, and don’t know what you’re doing.
Never look desperate. Never say you need money or subs. Instead, say I want. I want a sub to cover my morning coffee is more powerful than I need a sub to cover my morning coffee. I want a sub to cover my rent this month is always more powerful than I need rent money. No matter how broke you are, never let it show.
Never let a potential sub waste your time. Spend only as much time with each new contact as it takes to find out their intentions, and then ask for a tribute. If they ignore your request or give some excuse for not sending it immediately, that’s the moment they’ve used up their free time. Don’t spend a second longer on someone who doesn’t acknowledge that your time is valuable, and that you deserve to be paid.
Never interact with anyone who won’t age verify. You’re an adult. You are responsible for ensuring you only interact with other adults. Otherwise, it’s jail, or blackmail, or both. And the derision you will endure from other dommes if you are discovered messing with minors just isn’t worth it.
Never let anyone else tell you what you’re worth. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you you’re asking for too much money, or insults you to get you to lower your price. You’re worth whatever you are charging, and as the domme in charge, nobody else has any say.
Never let anyone disrespect you. You don’t need anyone around you who doesn’t treat you with respect. Don’t listen to a word they say. Block and move on.
Never do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. It’s fine to try new things when you’re ready, but don’t let anyone violate your boundaries and limits. That’s disrespectful, and you don’t let people disrespect you. Right?