Although I put this pretty far down on my 10 steps list, verification is one of the most important things you’ll do as a new domme. You must show that you’re over 18, and can legally participate in a consensual relationship with another adult. Until you’ve verified, you are stuck in a corner of the kink world you probably never wanted to be in, and attracting the interest of people who are looking for girls who are under age.
Where to verify
Ideally, you want to be age verified by a site that allows viewers to see your profile without creating an account or logging in.
These sites are the most popular place to verify, because they have so many features that can be useful once you’re up and running:
Of the three, I’ve applied to OF and LF, and found OF’s application and rejection process kinda snotty, while LF’s acceptance happened quickly. So, I use LF.
These sites have fewer useful features, but because some dommes also sell video clips or chat, they can double as verification:
I Want Clips is a video site that focuses on female domination.
ManyVids is a hardcore video site (which is why I’m not linking to it).
SextPanther is a phone sex and texting site (not linking here either).
PremiumChat is a chat service that allows you to offer video, text, and phone options.
These sites are for folks who sell pics and dirty undies, and viewers may or may not have to log in to see your verification:
What to expect when verifying
Most sites listed above have the same general verification process. All of them will ask for a photo of your driver’s license or government ID. Some ask for another photo of you holding that ID. OF and LF will also ask for links to your socials, and this is why we’re verifying after you’ve started your social accounts, and have been posting to them. OF in particular wants you to have a presence on social media. (Tip: you can use your real identity accounts to get through verification.)
Don’t be put off by the verification process. Nobody from any of these sites is going to do anything with these photos but verify you’re an adult, and not misrepresenting yourself.
(Trans dommes: adult sites know about your ID issues. Whatever the disparity between legal name and government documents, they’ve seen it before, and will work with you.)
If the site takes payments for you, even if you don’t plan to use their payment processor, they will ask you to fill out a tax form. Yes, your income as a domme is taxable.
Verification videos
Verification videos are mostly a Twitter thing. Some dommes do a short intro video, saying their name, and whatever else they want. Here’s one of mine. I generally have one of these pinned at the top of my Twitter page, and link to it in my link list.
If you are overtly over 18 visually, doing this as you set up your Twitter account will keep the folks looking for underage girls away until you can do an adult site verification. However, posting a verification video is not a long term alternative to adult site verification. Get yourself verified.