Before you start down the road to being a findomme, you should do some research, so you know what you’re getting yourself into. There’s a lot of info posted online, but unfortunately, some if it is written by folks who either aren’t findommes, or are new to findom. So, let me point you to sources that will give you the best start:
Eliza Monique is based in Australia, and is an experienced findomme. She approaches her video lessons gently, and with humor. I suggest watching her whole findom playlist on TikTok.
Hope Vicious is also an experienced findomme, and approaches things with a harder edge and some snark. Her lengthy findom playlist on TikTok is filled with valuable information.
Both Eliza and Hope sell findomme how-to files, and will sometimes mentor people. Approach correctly.
I hang out in r/findomsuppportgroup on Reddit, which can be a zoo, but if you read through their past posts, you’ll find answers to many of the most-asked questions findommes have. The subreddit is full of experienced dommes who quickly call out any erroneous information. Princess Angie J’s series of posts about findom may be helpful for those just starting out.
I love this article on The Independent that discusses findom from a sub’s perspective. Also, this article on Psychology Today that discusses the psychology of findom.
Once you get through all that, you should be ready to start following dommes on whichever social platforms you’ve decided to use. Be ready to Google a lot, because you won’t understand half of what they say. But the information is out there, and as you make domme friends, you’ll also gain people you can learn from. I belong to two engagement groups on Twitter, filled with experienced dommes, and even with my own experience, I still Google something they reference once a day. Could be a site, or a game, or an app, or an acronym. There’s always something to learn.
Research is something you should continue to do as you’re building your domme persona, and periodically as a practicing findomme, just to be sure you’re up to date, and still using the best tools and techniques to run your empire.