Most dommes do business under an alias, in order to protect their identities and for a layer of safety. Choosing a domme name and developing your persona can be a lot of fun, as well.
What’s a persona?
Being a domme requires a good deal of acting, so think of your persona as the role you’re going to play. Is your domme persona young and bratty? Is she an ice queen? Is she a tough, leather domme? Think about how you want to portray yourself. That’s the beginning of your persona.
Not sure about what type of domme you want to be? That’s OK. As you start up your socials, you’ll develop some preferences about what appeals to you, and what doesn’t. Your domme persona may just be the real you, plus those personal preferences.
Domme honorifics
Most (but not all) domme names start with some common honorifics:
Mistress
Goddess
Queen
Princess
Empress
Lady
Enchantress
You get the idea. You’re building a persona that men will want to worship, so of course your name reflects that status.
Don’t like that naming convention? Throw it out the window, and call yourself something you like. You make the rules about your name.
The second half
The second half of your name should be something separate from your real one, especially if you want to keep your vanilla life and domme life separate from each other. Choose something nobody in your vanilla life would ever call you, and not a family nickname.
I used to be a faceless domme named Pinkie Huntington, because I have pink hair, and if you Google that name, you’ll see why: it’s the name of a famous painting, and the place it resides. I’ve been there, and loved it, and if anyone in my vanilla life ever stumbled upon that name, Google would thwart them from finding me.
Name research
Do you sort of have a name in mind yet? Or a few options you’re considering? Before you settle on one, do some searching. I’ll illustrate that with my current name, Mistress Zynn.
I started with zinnia, one of my favorite flowers.
Mistress Zinnia? Too long.
Mistress Zin? Taken on both TikTok and Insta.
Mistress Zyn? Also taken on one social or another.
Mistress Zynn? Short enough, not taken on Insta, available on Gmail, and taken on TikTok, but as a dead account.
Then I Googled, to be sure I wasn’t taking the name of someone well known. I searched Twitter, to see if anyone referenced that name. All clear, everywhere. I have now scored the elusive unique name.
Having said that, I think I follow half a dozen Goddess Alexas, and a couple of Lunas, and two LaLas. Not everyone finds having a unique name important. I do, because I want people who are following me to know they’ve got me, and not some other girl with the same name.
Your domme name is not forever
Don’t feel as though you’ll be stuck with your name forever. You can change it if it doesn’t suit you later. I’ve done it, and with very little hassle. I just closed all my old accounts (except the email address, just in case), and set up new ones with a different name.
And I actually know a domme who was Goddess NoName for a month or so, and used her name choices as posts on social media, with a big reveal when she settled on one. Very clever.
So there you go. Pick a name.